{Wedding Planning 101} | What is the Assigned Seating Protocol?

 
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daytoremember.net | Serendipity Photography | Four Seasons Hotel | Houston, Texas | A Day To Remember Houston Luxury Wedding Planning and Design

So many times we get asked at weddings, “Can I move my seat over to Table X instead?” If we had a penny for every single time we get asked this question, we’d be millionaires!

SHORT ANSWER is: NO! After the couple spent hours, sometimes days working on a seating assignment to ensure all their guests are comfortable, but you decide that you are a bit extra that you need to switch seats…in the words of Stephanie Tanner from Full House: “How Rude!”

LONG ANSWER: Unless it is a health issue that requires you to be closer to an exit, or another true legitimate reason the couple may be unaware, you really do need to just be respectful of the couples’ wishes and focus on sharing in their joy from the seat assigned to you.

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daytoremember.net | Gary Guy Photography | Hyatt Regency Galleria | Houston, Texas | A Day To Remember Houston Luxury Wedding Planning and Design

Every time a guest decides they want to switch seats, they are causing havoc for everyone else, not to mention the timeline and meal service. “Oh come one, it’s just one seat!” , “I doubt the couple would do this to us!”, “The couple said it was okay for me to move to this table!”, “Can’t we just squeeze in a extra chair here?” We’ve heard all these comments and then some.

Let’s break it down for you. Every time you feel, or have felt compelled to switch seats at a wedding you are, or were graciously invited to attend:

  • When you decide you to switch seats, you are automatically displacing other guests.

  • When other guests are displaced, they come to us, the planners, or the couple [in the event a planner was not hired], and the seating situation needs to be sorted out.

  • Before the wedding festivities can continue to the dinner portion, all guests must be seated, so sorting out the seating details only further prolongs these festivities.

  • You may recall when you were completing your RSVP card, there was a notation for your entrée selection. Well, for the couple to ensure you receive your desired entrée selection, you must be at the seat assigned to you, as this is the seat assignment given, not just to the planner, but to the Banquet and/or Catering Director.

We implore you to please be respectful of others. We know how exciting it is to reunite with family and/or friends and your desire to break bread with them, but if you were assigned to a table or a seat, please be mindful of the couple and of everyone else. You will have plenty of time to commiserate with your loved ones during the dancing portion, or prior to dinner during the cocktail reception.

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daytoremember.net | Daniel Colvin Photography | The Briar Club | Houston, Texas | A Day To Remember Houston Luxury Wedding Planning and Design

We truly do hope we have provided you with an insight on the “behind-the-scenes” of seating assignments and why it is important to abide by the protocol!

So tell us, are you guilty of switching seats at a wedding? If so, please let us know what was your reasoning…maybe we are missing out on something!

Leave your comments below!

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daytoremember.net | Daniel Colvin Photography | The Parador | Houston, Texas | A Day To Remember Houston Luxury Wedding Planning and Design

 

{A Waters Edge Wedding} | Jasmine + Corey

 
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daytoremember.net | Daniel Colvin Photography | Waters Edge | El Lago, Texas | A Day To Remember Houston Luxury Wedding Planning and Design

When Corey + Jasmine said, we want our wedding to be very untraditional and fun, they were dead serious! These two, didn’t want a traditional ceremony, even the music selections reflected their eclectic personalities!

The color palette — vibrant hues from yellows and oranges to aqua and hot pinks! The vibe — more cocktail, less formal concept, which meant no wedding cake, just a fabulous dessert bar, and food stations versus a plated seated dinner. Yard games filled out the open lawn area of the space, where you could see guests rolling up their sleeves and partaking in the fun!

Now that’s what we call a fun wedding! Don’t believe us? Take a look at these incredible images, perfectly captured by Daniel Colvin of Daniel Colvin Photography!

A huge THANK YOU goes out to the incredible team of creative partners! The collaborative efforts of each and every one has made this wedding for Jasmine + Corey “a day to remember”!

Planning | Design | Event Management: A Day To Remember // Ceremony + Reception Venue: Waters Edge // Photography: Daniel Colvin Photography // Cinematography: Seventh Ray Films // Henna Artist: Paisleys and Swirls // Stationery | Calligraphy: A Day To Remember // Decor - Florals: Dream Bouquet // Decor - Linens: House of Hough // Décor - Lighting: LG Entertainment // Catering + Dessert Bar: A La Carte Events & Catering // Entertainment - Ceremony | Cocktail | Reception | Photo Booth: LG Entertainment // Transportation: Sam’s Limousine // Child Care: Wonderland Event Childcare

 

{Wedding Planning 101} | Wedding Planner vs Wedding Coordinator

 
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In our last blog post, we talked about the difference between a venue coordinator versus a wedding coordinator, but we wanted to take it a step further and differentiate a WEDDING PLANNER versus a WEDDING COORDINATOR. We find many using the term interchangeably, even amongst actual planners and coordinators, so we want to set the record straight! Our goal is to ensure you are using the term properly to avoid any confusion and set the proper expectations!

So, what is the difference between a wedding planner and a wedding coordinator? Is there really a difference? Aren’t both a planner and a coordinator the same thing?

What is the difference between a wedding planner and a wedding coordinator? Short answer: A wedding planner, PLANS your wedding, while a wedding coordinator, COORDINATES your special day!

Wedding Planner:

Your wedding planner will be your BFF, your confidant, the person who will advocate for you and be excited for you. If you are the couple that is busy, or simply has zero idea where to begin with the planning process, having a wedding planner will help guide you through the process. Your wedding planner will work with you to conceptualize, design {if that is a part of their expertise – not all planners are designers!} and create a detailed budget spreadsheet for you based on your needs. Not sure about vendors? Not to worry, as your wedding planner will team you up with the right vendors who will “get you”, understand your vision and will connect with you! A wedding planner will advocate for you, speak on your behalf, basically represent you when you are unavailable or simply don’t want to indulge in all the little details. Having a wedding planner will ensure all your bases are covered, all your “I’s” are dotted and your “t’s” are crossed, will have a drink with you when you’re having a rough day and be your sounding board on your wedding ideas.

Wedding Coordinator:

The couple who likes to plan and make decisions will more likely be interested in a wedding coordinator. A wedding coordinator will basically take the load off your hands roughly about 30 to 45 days out from your BIG day and basically take over the reins. The primary duties of a coordinator are to coordinate all the final details, create timelines and coordinate the logistics for your special day. Managing your wedding day, ensuring timelines are followed through, as well as putting out any fires {figuratively speaking} will be included in the job description of your wedding coordinator.

Remember, all wedding planners offer coordination/event management services, but not all coordinators offer planning services, so please be sure to ask the right questions depending on your needs!

We hope this article helped clarify any confusions! Happy Planning!